{"id":6085,"date":"2026-04-29T22:00:54","date_gmt":"2026-04-29T22:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/?p=6085"},"modified":"2026-04-29T22:00:54","modified_gmt":"2026-04-29T22:00:54","slug":"nisanlimin-kizi-bu-yastan-sonra-kim-evlenir-diyerek-dugunumuzu-sabote-etmeye-kalkti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/nisanlimin-kizi-bu-yastan-sonra-kim-evlenir-diyerek-dugunumuzu-sabote-etmeye-kalkti\/","title":{"rendered":"Ni\u015fanl\u0131m\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131, \u201cbu ya\u015ftan sonra kim evlenir?\u201d diyerek d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc sabote etmeye kalkt\u0131."},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t\t<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 33%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-6085 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/nisanlimin-kizi-bu-yastan-sonra-kim-evlenir-diyerek-dugunumuzu-sabote-etmeye-kalkti\/nn\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/nn-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-6086\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-6086'>\n\t\t\t\tNi\u015fanl\u0131m\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131, \u201cbu ya\u015ftan sonra kim evlenir?\u201d diyerek d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc sabote etmeye kalkt\u0131\u2026 ama sonras\u0131nda olacaklar\u0131 hi\u00e7 hesaba katmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.\n\n68 ya\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m ve ge\u00e7en yaz ikinci kez evlendim.\n\n\u0130lk e\u015fimle tam 37 y\u0131l s\u00fcren bir hayat payla\u015ft\u0131m. Onu kaybetti\u011fimde, a\u015fk defterinin benim i\u00e7in sonsuza dek kapand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.\n\nBe\u015f y\u0131l boyunca tek ba\u015f\u0131ma ya\u015fad\u0131m.\n\nDerken bir sabah, bir kafede Mehmet\u2019le tamamen tesad\u00fcfen tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131k. \u00dczerime yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131kla kahve d\u00f6kt\u00fc. O k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck kaza k\u0131sa bir sohbete, sonra bulu\u015fmalara ve fark etmeden a\u015fka d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc.\n\nBir y\u0131ldan k\u0131sa s\u00fcre sonra bana evlenme teklif etti. E\u015fimin \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnden sonra ilk kez kendimi ger\u00e7ekten canl\u0131 ve mutlu hissediyordum.\n\nMehmet de gen\u00e7 ya\u015fta e\u015fini kaybetmi\u015fti ve k\u0131z\u0131 Elif\u2019i tek ba\u015f\u0131na b\u00fcy\u00fctm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc.\n\nD\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn haz\u0131rl\u0131klar\u0131 ba\u015flar ba\u015flamaz Elif, ili\u015fkimizi a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a hedef almaya ba\u015flad\u0131.\n\nGerek\u00e7esi hep ayn\u0131yd\u0131:\n\n\u201cBu ya\u015ftan sonra evlilik mi olur?\u201d\n\u201cBabam\u0131n evine g\u00f6z dikmi\u015f olabilirsin.\u201d\n\nOysa kendi evim, kendi gelirim vard\u0131. Buna ra\u011fmen Mehmet beni her seferinde savundu. Ama Elif durmad\u0131; ili\u015fkimizi s\u00fcrekli zehirlemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131.\n\nBen ise tart\u0131\u015fmalardan uzak durmay\u0131 se\u00e7tim. Baba\u2013k\u0131z ili\u015fkilerine kar\u0131\u015fmak istemiyor, huzursuzluk \u00e7\u0131karmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131yordum.\n\nTa ki d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn g\u00fcn\u00fc gelene kadar.\n\nT\u00f6renden hemen \u00f6nce \u00fczerimi de\u011fi\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in odaya girdi\u011fimde dona kald\u0131m.\n\nGelinli\u011fim mahvolmu\u015ftu. Y\u0131rt\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, lekelenmi\u015f, fermuar\u0131 kopar\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.\n\nO s\u0131rada Elif i\u00e7eri girdi, y\u00fcz\u00fcnde alayc\u0131 bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemeyle:\n\n\u201cGelinlikte sorun mu var? Belki de bu d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc iptal etmen gerekti\u011fine bir i\u015farettir?\u201d dedi.\n\nO an olay \u00e7\u0131karmad\u0131m. Sessizce bir arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131 arad\u0131m ve bana acilen beyaz bir elbise bulmas\u0131n\u0131 rica ettim.\n\nBir saat sonra, tamamen farkl\u0131 bir elbiseyle Mehmet\u2019in yan\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131m. O anda ne giydi\u011fimin hi\u00e7bir \u00f6nemi yoktu.\n\nAma as\u0131l s\u00fcrpriz bundan sonra ya\u015fand\u0131.\n\nMehmet, Elif\u2019in yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yan\u0131na b\u0131rakmad\u0131.\n\nT\u00fcm davetlilerin \u00f6n\u00fcnde aya\u011fa kalkt\u0131 ve y\u00fcksek sesle \u015f\u00f6yle dedi:\n\n\u201cHerkes l\u00fctfen dikkatle dinlesin. \u00d6zellikle sen, Elif. S\u00d6YLEMEM GEREKEN B\u0130R \u015eEY VAR.\u201d\n\nSalon buz kesti. Etraf\u0131ma bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, misafirlerin y\u00fcz\u00fcndeki \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 net bir \u015fekilde g\u00f6rebiliyordum\u2026\n\nElif\u2019e d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde sesi titremiyordu. Aksine, hayat\u0131m boyunca nadiren g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm kadar sakindi. Bu sakinlik, salondaki herkesin t\u00fcylerini diken diken etmeye yetmi\u015fti.\n\n\u201cBug\u00fcn benim d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn g\u00fcn\u00fcm,\u201d diye ba\u015flad\u0131 Mehmet. \u201cHayat\u0131mda ikinci kez evleniyorum. \u0130lk e\u015fimi topra\u011fa verdi\u011fim g\u00fcn\u00fc de hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum, bug\u00fcn buraya \u00e7\u0131karken hissetti\u011fim mutlulu\u011fu da. \u0130kisi de ger\u00e7ek. \u0130kisi de bana ait.\u201d\n\nElif g\u00f6zlerini ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131. Misafirler nefeslerini tutmu\u015ftu.\n\n\u201cBen bu kad\u0131n\u0131,\u201d dedi Mehmet ve elimi tuttu, \u201cparas\u0131n\u0131, evini, ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ya da yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 doldursun diye se\u00e7medim. Onu se\u00e7tim \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc sabahlar\u0131 uyanmak i\u00e7in bir sebep oldu. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc be\u015f y\u0131l boyunca kalbim sessizdi ve o sesi geri getirdi.\u201d\n\nSalonda hafif bir m\u0131r\u0131ldanma yay\u0131ld\u0131. Baz\u0131 kad\u0131nlar\u0131n g\u00f6zleri dolmu\u015ftu.\n\nMehmet derin bir nefes ald\u0131 ve sesi biraz sertle\u015fti.\n\n\u201c\u015eimdi as\u0131l s\u00f6ylemem gereken \u015feye geliyorum. Elif\u2026 bug\u00fcn gelinli\u011fe yap\u0131lan \u015fey bir \u2018\u015faka\u2019 de\u011fil. Bir uyar\u0131 da de\u011fil. Bu, bilerek ve isteyerek yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir sayg\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k.\u201d\n\nElif ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 kald\u0131rd\u0131. \u0130lk kez y\u00fcz\u00fcndeki alayc\u0131 ifade silinmi\u015fti.\n\n\u201cAnneni kaybettikten sonra seni tek ba\u015f\u0131ma b\u00fcy\u00fctt\u00fcm,\u201d diye devam etti Mehmet. \u201cHayat\u0131m\u0131n merkezine seni koydum. Ama \u015funu \u00f6\u011frenmen gerekiyor: Baba olmak, \u00e7ocu\u011funun her yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 savunmak de\u011fildir. Bazen dur demek gerekir.\u201d\n\nSalondaki sessizlik a\u011f\u0131rla\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.\n\n\u201cBug\u00fcn burada, herkesin \u00f6n\u00fcnde \u015funu s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorum,\u201d dedi Mehmet. \u201cBu kad\u0131n benim e\u015fim. Ona sayg\u0131 duymak zorundas\u0131n. E\u011fer bunu yapam\u0131yorsan, benim hayat\u0131ma m\u00fcdahale etmeyi b\u0131rakacaks\u0131n.\u201d\n\nElif\u2019in g\u00f6zleri doldu ama g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015fmedi. Gururu, duygular\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde duruyordu.\n\n\u201cBunu bana m\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorsun?\u201d diye f\u0131s\u0131ldad\u0131. \u201cBen senin k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131m.\u201d\n\nMehmet ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 sallad\u0131. \u201cEvet. Tam da bu y\u00fczden.\u201d\n\nO an i\u00e7imde bir \u015fey k\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131. Ama bu k\u0131r\u0131lma ac\u0131dan de\u011fil, uzun s\u00fcredir hissetmedi\u011fim bir g\u00fcven duygusundand\u0131. Hayat\u0131mda ilk kez biri, beni korumak i\u00e7in b\u00f6yle a\u00e7\u0131k ve net bir \u015fekilde duruyordu&#8230;\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/nisanlimin-kizi-bu-yastan-sonra-kim-evlenir-diyerek-dugunumuzu-sabote-etmeye-kalkti\/ghf\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/ghf-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-6087\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-6087'>\n\t\t\t\tElif bir s\u00fcre daha ayakta kald\u0131. Sonra hi\u00e7bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylemeden salonu terk etti. Kap\u0131 kapand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, salondaki herkes ayn\u0131 anda nefes ald\u0131 sanki.\n\nT\u00f6ren devam etti. Nik\u00e2h memuru sorular\u0131 sordu, \u201cEvet\u201dler s\u00f6ylendi, alk\u0131\u015flar y\u00fckseldi. Ama i\u00e7imde bir burukluk vard\u0131. Mutluydum, evet. Ama Elif\u2019in \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p gidi\u015fi i\u00e7imi s\u0131zlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.\n\nD\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden sonra g\u00fcnler ge\u00e7ti. Elif\u2019ten hi\u00e7bir haber gelmedi. Ne arad\u0131, ne mesaj att\u0131. Mehmet \u00fczg\u00fcnd\u00fc ama geri ad\u0131m atmad\u0131.\n\n\u201cZamana ihtiyac\u0131 var,\u201d dedi. \u201cAma s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmesi gerekiyordu.\u201d\n\nBir ay sonra bir sabah kap\u0131 \u00e7ald\u0131. A\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131mda Elif kar\u015f\u0131mdayd\u0131. Elinde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir kutu vard\u0131. G\u00f6zleri yorgundu.\n\n\u201cGirebilir miyim?\u201d dedi.\n\nSessizce kenara \u00e7ekildim.\n\nOturduk. Bir s\u00fcre konu\u015fmad\u0131. Sonra derin bir nefes ald\u0131.\n\n\u201cHakl\u0131 de\u011fildim,\u201d dedi. \u201cAma korkuyordum.\u201d\n\nBa\u015f\u0131m\u0131 kald\u0131rd\u0131m.\n\n\u201cBabam\u0131 kaybetmekten korktum,\u201d diye devam etti. \u201cAnnem \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde d\u00fcnya ba\u015f\u0131ma y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131. Bir daha ayn\u0131 \u015feyi ya\u015famak istemedim. Sizi kendime tehdit gibi g\u00f6rd\u00fcm.\u201d\n\nKutuyu bana uzatt\u0131. \u0130\u00e7inden, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcmde giyemedi\u011fim gelinli\u011fin onar\u0131lm\u0131\u015f h\u00e2linin foto\u011fraf\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. Alt\u0131na k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir not ili\u015ftirilmi\u015fti:\n\n\u2018Ge\u00e7 kald\u0131m ama \u00f6z\u00fcr dilerim.\u2019\n\nG\u00f6zlerim doldu.\n\n\u201cO g\u00fcn yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u015fey,\u201d dedi Elif, \u201casl\u0131nda size de\u011fil, kendi korkular\u0131ma sald\u0131rmakt\u0131.\u201d\n\nAya\u011fa kalkt\u0131. \u201cBeni affetmenizi beklemiyorum. Ama bilmenizi istedim.\u201d\n\nO an anlad\u0131m ki, herkes sevgiyi ayn\u0131 olgunlukla ta\u015f\u0131yam\u0131yordu. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenerek, baz\u0131lar\u0131 hata yaparak b\u00fcy\u00fcyordu.\n\nElif kap\u0131dan \u00e7\u0131karken ona \u015funu s\u00f6yledim:\n\n\u201cAffetmek bazen kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakine de\u011fil, kendimize verdi\u011fimiz bir hediyedir.\u201d\n\nDurdu, arkas\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6nd\u00fc ve ilk kez ger\u00e7ekten g\u00fcl\u00fcmsedi.\n\nBug\u00fcn evlili\u011fimizin \u00fczerinden bir y\u0131l ge\u00e7ti. Elif h\u00e2l\u00e2 her \u015feyde m\u00fckemmel de\u011fil ama art\u0131k sayg\u0131l\u0131. Mehmet ise h\u00e2l\u00e2 her sabah elimi tutarak uyan\u0131yor.\n\nVe ben \u015funu \u00f6\u011frendim:\nA\u015fk\u0131n ya\u015f\u0131 yok. Ama cesaretin, s\u0131n\u0131r koyman\u0131n ve kendini se\u00e7menin tam zaman\u0131 her zaman \u015fimdi.\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl>\n\t\t\t<br style='clear: both' \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6086,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6085","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-foto-galeri"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6085","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6085"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6085\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6088,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6085\/revisions\/6088"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6086"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6085"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6085"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6085"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}