{"id":1364,"date":"2025-03-03T01:22:11","date_gmt":"2025-03-03T01:22:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/?p=1364"},"modified":"2025-03-03T01:22:11","modified_gmt":"2025-03-03T01:22:11","slug":"ben-koyde-ailemden-sevgi-gormeden-buyudum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/ben-koyde-ailemden-sevgi-gormeden-buyudum\/","title":{"rendered":"Ben k\u00f6yde ailemden sevgi g\u00f6rmeden b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t\t<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 33%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-1364 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/ben-koyde-ailemden-sevgi-gormeden-buyudum\/ben-koyde-ailemden-sevgi-gormeden-buyudum\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/Ben-koyde-ailemden-sevgi-gormeden-buyudum-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-1365\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-1365'>\n\t\t\t\tBen k\u00f6yde ailemden sevgi g\u00f6rmeden b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm. Ailem hep erkek \u00e7ocuk beklemi\u015f . Be\u015finci k\u0131z \u00e7ocuk, yani ben olunca herkes a\u011flam\u0131\u015f. Babam iki g\u00fcn eve gelmemi\u015f. \u0130tile kak\u0131la b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm. \u0130lkokuldan sonra ne okula g\u00f6nderdiler ne hocaya. Evde hep h\u0131rg\u00fcr, dayak. K\u0131\u015f\u0131n hal\u0131 dokur, yaz\u0131n bah\u00e7ede tarlada \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131k. Bu y\u00fczden benden b\u00fcy\u00fck ablalar\u0131m\u0131 babam evlendirmiyordu. Ba\u015fl\u0131k paras\u0131 adeti olsa eminim hi\u00e7 durmaz evlendirirdi ama bizim k\u00f6yde ba\u015fl\u0131k paras\u0131 yoktur. K\u0131zlar \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r babam paray\u0131 al\u0131r ak\u015fama kadar kahvede tavla oynard\u0131. K\u00f6y\u00fcm\u00fczde yol yap\u0131m \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131nda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir \u00e7ocu\u011fu sevdim. Babas\u0131 \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015f iki k\u0131zkarde\u015fi evlenmi\u015f annesi ile ya\u015f\u0131yordu. \u00d6n\u00fcmde d\u00f6rt ablam varken evlenmem m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildi. O&#8217;nun annesi de beni istemiyordu zaten. Ka\u00e7maya karar verdik ve ka\u00e7t\u0131k. Ben 15 e\u015fim 17 ya\u015f\u0131ndayd\u0131. \u015eehirde ablas\u0131n\u0131n evinde evlendik. Bir hafta sonra e\u015fimin k\u00f6y\u00fcne d\u00f6nd\u00fck. Bizim k\u00f6ye hi\u00e7 benzemiyordu. Me\u011fer bu k\u00f6yde ba\u015fl\u0131k paras\u0131 varm\u0131\u015f. Ba\u015fta istemesede bu durum ho\u015funa gitti, bedava bir gelin sahibi oldu. Kaynanam beni kabullendi. Kaynanamla ya\u015famaya ba\u015flad\u0131m. Babam beni evlatl\u0131ktan reddetti. Kaynanam y\u0131llarca u\u011fra\u015ft\u0131, bar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak elini \u00f6pt\u00fcrmek istesede asla kabul etmedi. Annem ve k\u0131zkarde\u015flerimle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcm ama asla baba evine giremem. _K\u0131z\u0131m dedi kaynanam, \u00abart\u0131k bundan sonra sen benim k\u0131z\u0131ms\u0131n, bende senin annen bunu b\u00f6yle bil.\u00bb Sert otoriter bir yap\u0131ya sahipti. Evde kurallar\u0131 o koyuyor herkes uymak zorunda kal\u0131yordu. E\u015fim annesinin laf\u0131ndan asla \u00e7\u0131km\u0131yordu. Genelde yaz\u0131n e\u015fim \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya gidiyor ben aylarca Kaynanamla yaln\u0131z kal\u0131yordum. Giderken anam\u0131n laf\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kma diye s\u0131k\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131 tembih ediyordu bu beni deli ediyordu. Ben asl\u0131nda her i\u015fi bildi\u011fimi san\u0131yordum ama evlenince hi\u00e7 bir \u015fey bilmedi\u011fimi fark ettim. Sonras\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m ise..\n\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/ben-koyde-ailemden-sevgi-gormeden-buyudum\/sevgi\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/sevgi-150x150.webp\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-1366\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-1366'>\n\t\t\t\tBen asl\u0131nda her i\u015fi bildi\u011fimi san\u0131yordum ama evlenince hi\u00e7 bir \u015fey bilmedi\u011fimi fark ettim. Babam hi\u00e7 evde durmaz d\u0131\u015fardan yer i\u00e7er. Bizde \u00f6yle \u00f6\u011f\u00fcn falan yok ac\u0131kan ekme\u011fin aras\u0131na \u00e7\u00f6kelek, peynir, re\u00e7el ne bulursa yerdi. Gece ge\u00e7 saatlere kadar ablalar\u0131mla radyoyu a\u00e7ar hal\u0131 dokur sonra \u00f6\u011flene kadar yatard\u0131k. Annem pek evde durmaz o kom\u015fu senin bu kom\u015fu benim gezerdi. Evin i\u015fini \u00fcst\u00fcnk\u00f6r\u00fc ablalar\u0131m yar\u0131m saattte bitirir tekrar hal\u0131ya otururduk. Ben hi\u00e7 ev i\u015fi yapmazd\u0131m. Bir hafta kaynanam a\u011fz\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7mad\u0131 sonra : \u00ab_K\u0131z\u0131m bak bu saatte kalk\u0131lmaz. Evin bereketi ka\u00e7ar. Sabah namaz\u0131 k\u0131l\u0131p i\u015fleri ku\u015fluk vaktine kadar bitirip birde ku\u015fluk namaz\u0131 k\u0131l\u0131nsa ne g\u00fczel olur\u00bb dedi. Ben namaz k\u0131lmay\u0131 bilmiyorum anne dedim. Ben sana \u00f6\u011fretirim dedi. Her sabah erkenden kalk\u0131p saat ona, en ge\u00e7 onbire bitiriyorduk. Bu k\u00f6yde hal\u0131 dokuma i\u015fi yoktu. \u00c7ok ba\u011f bah\u00e7ede yoktu evin ihtiyac\u0131 kadar ekip dikiyorduk.\n\nHer i\u015f vaktinde yap\u0131lmazsa kaynanam adeta \u00e7\u0131ld\u0131rt\u0131yordu. Mesela yemek yendi bula\u015f\u0131k hemen y\u0131kanacak vb. Bu bana \u00e7ok zor geliyordu ilk ba\u015flarda. Ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131yor kavga ediyorduk ama bunu asla o\u011fluna yans\u0131tm\u0131yordu. Sonra ben onun d\u00fczenine al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Bir s\u00fcre sonra her\u015feyi \u00f6\u011frendim. Asl\u0131nda her i\u015fi birlikte yap\u0131yorduk ama i\u015fin a\u011f\u0131r taraf\u0131n\u0131 kendisi al\u0131yordu.\n\nSeksenli y\u0131llar mesela o zamanlar \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r makinesi yok birer le\u011fen \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r y\u0131k\u0131yoruz kendi b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131rlar\u0131 y\u0131kard\u0131 bana k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131rlar\u0131 verirdi. \u00c7ok dindar bir kad\u0131nd\u0131. Bana namaz k\u0131l demezdi ama namaz\u0131n \u00f6nemini anlat\u0131rd\u0131. Asla bo\u015f konu\u015fmaz yalan s\u00f6ylemez haks\u0131zl\u0131k yapmazd\u0131. Helale harama \u00e7ok \u00f6nem verirdi. \u0130ki \u00e7ocu\u011fum oldu. Hamileliklerim \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc ge\u00e7ti. Bu s\u00fcrede beni hi\u00e7 mutfa\u011fa sokmad\u0131. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n bak\u0131m\u0131nda \u00e7ok yard\u0131mc\u0131 oldu. \n\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl>\n\t\t\t<br style='clear: both' \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1365,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1364","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-foto-galeri"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1364","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1364"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1364\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1367,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1364\/revisions\/1367"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1365"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1364"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1364"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1364"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}