{"id":5822,"date":"2026-04-24T19:41:19","date_gmt":"2026-04-24T19:41:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/vr-11.jpg"},"modified":"2026-04-24T19:41:30","modified_gmt":"2026-04-24T19:41:30","slug":"vr-41","status":"inherit","type":"attachment","link":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/eski-koca-babasiyla-evlilik\/vr-41\/","title":{"rendered":"Eski Koca Babas\u0131yla Evlilik"},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"class_list":["post-5822","attachment","type-attachment","status-inherit","hentry"],"description":{"rendered":"

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\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131n benden al\u0131nmas\u0131n\u0131 engellemenin tek yolunun kay\u0131npederimle evlenmek oldu\u011funa inanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Ancak t\u00f6ren biter bitmez, teklifinin ard\u0131ndaki ger\u00e7ek nedeni a\u00e7\u0131klad\u0131; bu neden, anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m her \u015feyi sorgulamama sebep oldu.<\/p>\n

30 ya\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m, 33 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki eski kocam Selim’den iki \u00e7ocu\u011fum var. O\u011flum Can yedi, k\u0131z\u0131m Leyla ise be\u015f ya\u015f\u0131nda. Bo\u015fanmadan sonra hayat\u0131mdaki tek dayana\u011f\u0131m onlard\u0131. Selim ile ilk tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda bana ve \u00e7ocuklara bakaca\u011f\u0131na dair s\u00f6z vermi\u015fti. Beni i\u015fimden ayr\u0131lmaya ikna etmi\u015f, evde \u00e7ocuklarla ilgilenmenin ger\u00e7ek bir ailenin gere\u011fi oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylemi\u015fti.<\/p>\n

Ona g\u00fcvenmi\u015ftim. O zamanlar bu do\u011fru geliyordu.<\/p>\n

Fakat zamanla i\u015fler de\u011fi\u015fti. Sohbetlerimiz k\u0131sald\u0131. Art\u0131k kararlara dahil edilmiyordum. Onun hayat arkada\u015f\u0131 olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p, sadece ayn\u0131 mekanda… var olan birine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm. Sonunda Selim bunu gizlemeye gerek bile duymad\u0131. Bir gece mutfakta, \u201cBensiz hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin yok,\u201d dedi. \u201cNe bir i\u015fin ne de birikimin. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131 alaca\u011f\u0131m ve seni onlar\u0131n hayat\u0131ndan silece\u011fim.\u201d \u201c\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131 b\u0131rakm\u0131yorum!\u201d \u00d6nemsemiyormu\u015f gibi omuz silkti. \u201cG\u00f6rece\u011fiz.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fte o an, bunun art\u0131k d\u00fczeltebilece\u011fim bir \u015fey olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlad\u0131m. Bana arkas\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6nmeyen tek bir ki\u015fi vard\u0131: Selim’in babas\u0131 Hamdi Bey. Hamdi Bey sessiz, g\u00f6zlemci bir duldu. Torunlar\u0131n\u0131n do\u011fum g\u00fcnlerine Selim\u2019den daha \u00e7ok gelirdi. Onlarla yere oturur, s\u00f6yledikleri ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6nemliymi\u015f gibi onlar\u0131 dinlerdi. Birka\u00e7 y\u0131l \u00f6nce hastaland\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, hastanede yan\u0131mda kalan ki\u015fi kay\u0131npederimdi. Selim bir kez geldi, Hamdi Bey ise her g\u00fcn. Ben yapamad\u0131\u011f\u0131mda \u00e7ocuklarla bile o ilgilendi. Bir \u015fekilde… tek deste\u011fim o olmu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n

Sonunda her \u015fey \u00e7\u00f6kt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde \u2014Selim eve ba\u015fka bir kad\u0131n\u0131 getirip benden gitmemi istedi\u011finde\u2014 gidecek ba\u015fka yerim yoktu. Annem babam yok, akrabam yok. Yetimhanede b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131 b\u0131rakmay\u0131 reddettim. Toplayabildi\u011fim her \u015feyi toplad\u0131m ve Hamdi Bey\u2019in evine s\u00fcrd\u00fcm. \u00d6nceden aramad\u0131m.<\/p>\n"},"alt_text":"","media_type":"image","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","media_details":{"width":1633,"height":980,"file":"2026\/04\/vr-11.jpg","filesize":41311,"sizes":{"medium":{"file":"vr-11-300x180.jpg","width":300,"height":180,"filesize":5404,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/vr-11-300x180.jpg"},"large":{"file":"vr-11-1024x615.jpg","width":1024,"height":615,"filesize":28614,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/vr-11-1024x615.jpg"},"thumbnail":{"file":"vr-11-150x150.jpg","width":150,"height":150,"filesize":4013,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/vr-11-150x150.jpg"},"medium_large":{"file":"vr-11-768x461.jpg","width":768,"height":461,"filesize":19391,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/vr-11-768x461.jpg"},"1536x1536":{"file":"vr-11-1536x922.jpg","width":1536,"height":922,"filesize":48866,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/vr-11-1536x922.jpg"},"full":{"file":"vr-11.jpg","width":1633,"height":980,"mime_type":"image\/jpeg","source_url":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/vr-11.jpg"}},"image_meta":{"aperture":"0","credit":"","camera":"","caption":"","created_timestamp":"0","copyright":"","focal_length":"0","iso":"0","shutter_speed":"0","title":"","orientation":"0","keywords":[]}},"post":5820,"source_url":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/vr-11.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5822","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/attachment"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5822"}],"wp:attached-to":[{"embeddable":true,"post_type":"post","id":5820,"href":"https:\/\/bilgitarif.com\/yeni\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5820"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}